Shared stories, real lives
As the nurse left the room the unit of free health care in my area, the tears started rolling down my cheeks. My body of a young 17 year old daughter started shaking out of control. The nurse had me confirm that I was actually pregnant. I was already six months pregnant, I had no home and I was alone. I had no money, no job and no future. What should I do for a child? Just a few months ago, I was president of my class, I delivered the valedictory address in my class and I was about to enter a university with a high-level full scholarship. Now, my life was over and I could not do anything about it.
As a child, I already had my share of worries. My mother was killed unexpectedly and I was raised by my father who married six times. For over 9 years, various family members and neighbors have abused me. I was obliged to fly and watch pornography. Physically, I was beaten and I was suffering from malnutrition.
Can we wonder that I have fallen into sexual promiscuity at the age of 13 years? I desperately need attention, love and recognition. I was barely 17 years I found myself pregnant for the third time. After two miscarriages, I should have realized that control of my life completely escaped me, but I was there to 17, recent graduate and pregnant for the third time.
Shortly after discovering my pregnancy, my father turned me out of the family home and do me never offered to return and live with my family. I abandoned myself. Where would I go? What should I do? I had the clothes I was wearing. I had no future and I was sure I ruined my life. It was at that time I had to make a choice. Is what I was going to let this kill me or would I fight for myself but for my future child?
At first, the future looked very bleak. The best I could do was to get a government housing and I used food stamps and welfare to make ends meet. I got a full-time ten days after giving birth to my child and I was studying full time at the university during the evenings. I had little furniture, no money to squander and a clunker as a car that broke down every week. But I went out. And when at last I began to see light at the end of the tunnel, I found myself pregnant again!
I was embarrassed, I was ashamed and it was during this period that I was on the verge of killing myself. What direction my life took? Is what I was going to stay all my life a single mother living under the poverty line and unable to meet the needs of her children? I began to toy with the idea of returning to the church. Despite my past, I always more or less kept in touch with the church. I knew the ways and God‘s work. But how could I go back? I had two children conceived out of wedlock and I made many mistakes in my past. All this weighed on my conscience like I lived thousands of years and I was sure that the walls of the church would give way under the weight of those sins once I crossed its threshold. But … … … … … I’m still gone.
I wish I could say I had an encounter with God that changed my life when I returned for the first time in church, but it did not happen. However, I continued to go there. Soon, I started going there two or three times a week. Slowly, slowly I began to take a fresh look on life. I felt more refreshed, more positive and more at peace than I had before. During a Sunday service, the pastor began to speak of tithing is to say, the giving ten percent of its income to the church. It was not the first time I heard of this concept, but I immediately thought, “How can I give money to the church when I can barely reach ends meet? “During the following months, I have not stopped thinking about what tithing system and that the pastor had said. So I decided to apply it.
Within six months since my first payment of tithing, I got a job with a salary almost twice my meager income. After two years, I got one of the most coveted jobs in our area and I later became a highly recognized leader of society in one of the largest companies in the country included the classification of Fortune 500. God, by His grace and mercy, chose to get out of the depths of poverty to get back up. I lived the life I always dreamed I went on holiday to places of dream, I was driving a luxury car and I owned a beautiful home. I did not deserve any of this but my Father in heaven loves me enough to bless me by allowing me to have all these properties. It did not take account of my past mistakes and choices that I made. He loved me. Soon after, he put in my way the man of my dreams and we married in the future.
I finally left the corporate world and all the material goods that were to continue with the passion that God had put in my heart and it was to minister to single mothers. I undertook a trip to reach out to poor people and those who suffer: widows, young mothers and divorced women. Thanks to the generosity and leadership of the Church Healing Place Church, we opened our first ministry for single mothers has increased by over 700% since its opening. The Department welcomes hundreds of women ranging in age, that is to say teenage girls to women in their fifties. Some of these women are single mothers who have high school and wishing to receive advice on how to educate their children or looking for opportunities for spiritual growth, others have not graduated from high school. Of these women, we are also attending worship and others who do not put your feet. But regardless of their past lives of these women are radically transformed for the cause of Christ. Atheists have found Christ and those who were under the influence of drugs are now released, while those whose hearts were broken are now cured.
With 17 million single mothers in our country, I challenge every church in our nation to open a group or a ministry dedicated to single mothers. 67% of them do not attend church actively and many of them cite the fear, and shame the trial to explain why. We have been called to preach the gospel to the poor and suffering, as well as widows and orphans. What better way to help single mothers? We started this fight and you, will you join?
- Singlemomeducationhelp.com, A New Quality Resource to Assist Single Mothers to Find Quality Jobs and Financial Help (prweb.com)
- Single Mother game (thesoloist1.wordpress.com)
- “Parenthood” (madworldwriters.wordpress.com)
- Single Mothers – Single Parenting (parentingintheloop.wordpress.com)
- College or university Grants Regarding Single Mother (bigsexymedia.com)
- Single mother’s struggle reveals some home truths (smh.com.au)